Red Flags: Do Better

Essential Etiquette for a Respectful Client-Prodomme Relationship

As a new, existing, or prospective client of a Professional Dominatrix, understanding and adhering to proper etiquette and respectful conduct is critical. This guide serves to outline not only the behaviours that are considered red flags, but also to provide ways of how to Do Better, in order to uphold the professionalism and integrity of this unique dynamic.

Respect the Standards
Red Flags:
Haggling over session rates or expecting discounts is disrespectful to a Prodomme's expertise and time.
Bartering in lieu of payment is inappropriate and devalues the Prodomme's services.
Soliciting complimentary sessions without a standing agreement is presumptuous and exploitative.

Do Better:
Accept and appreciate the established rates as an acknowledgment of professional skill, time, organising and arranging travel and accommodation, administration, and constant communication before, during, and after sessions...
Recognise that financial compensation is the standard form of exchange in this industry, and honour it.
Understand that as a ProDomme, My time is valuable, and compensate accordingly for My undivided attention.

Topping from the Bottom
Red Flag: Attempting to control the session, dictate the activities beyond agreed limits, or rejecting the Dominant's lead are behaviours that undermine the dynamic of a BDSM scene.

Do Better: Trust and submission are key components of our interaction. Communicate your desires and limits ahead of time, and once the session begins, relinquish control and embrace the experience as it unfolds under my expert guidance.

Communicate Constructively
Red Flags:
Poor communication, such as vague enquiries, late responses, or changing plans last-minute, shows a lack of consideration and respect.
Disregarding personal presentation or agreed-upon protocols reflects poorly on your level of seriousness and commitment.

Do Better:
Provide clear, concise, and timely communication to build trust and facilitate effective planning. If clarification is needed, ask rather than assume.
Adhere to My guidelines on etiquette and presentation out of respect for My role and your own investment in our experiences.

Timewasting Fantasists
Red Flag: Engaging in extensive communication without intention or respect for My time is not acceptable. This includes bombarding Me with messages, constant rescheduling, or providing vague or ever-changing session details.

Do Better: Be clear and concise about your desires and limits upfront. Respect My time (and yours) by being punctual for your sessions and following through on your commitments. If you're unsure about your interests, a brief and honest conversation about your fantasies is a better approach.

Honour and Integrity
Red Flags:
Any form of disrespect, aggression, or entitlement can quickly erode the necessary trust within the relationship.
Making demands or requests outside the scope of the agreed-upon session parameters is a violation of boundaries.

Do Better:
Engage with polite and courteous communication, ensuring your interactions reflect the utmost respect.
Stay within the boundaries set and discuss any changes in desires or limits openly and in advance.

Online Conduct and Digital Decorum
Red Flags:
Sending unsolicited explicit messages or content is not only improper but can also be considered harassment.
Overstepping designated communication times or platforms disrupts My personal boundaries and professional life.
Aggressive behaviour or language in digital correspondence is just as harmful as in person.

Do Better:
Keep all communications appropriate and within the agreed-upon times and contexts.
Recognise and honor My boundaries, just as you would in a session.

Beyond the Individual
Red Flags:
Speaking ill of other Prodommes, spreading rumours, or comparing them negatively is divisive and reflects poorly on you as a client.
Reacting with threats or attempting to tarnish a Prodomme's reputation when your expectations are not met is completely inexcusable.

Do Better:
Maintain a positive and respectful conversation about the community and professionals within it.
Address any dissatisfaction directly with the Prodomme in a constructive and civil manner. If a resolution cannot be found, part ways amicably if possible.

Uphold Professionalism
Always respect My cancellation policies, session protocols, and time.
Be honest and forthright about your intentions and desires from the outset.
Understand that exceptions to rules, special treatment, or other favours are not automatically granted and should be agreed upon in advance.

Additional Considerations:
Respect Boundaries: Recognise and respect My professional boundaries at all times. Do not push for personal information or contact that goes beyond our professional engagement.

Consent is Paramount: Always remember that 'no' means 'no,' and any hesitation or discomfort should be communicated immediately. The safety and comfort of everyone involved are non-negotiable.

Be Prepared: Come to your sessions with an open mind, a respectful attitude, and ready to engage fully with the experience. Poor preparation or a lackluster attitude can detract from the session's potential.

Aftercare: Appreciate the importance of aftercare, whether provided or requested. It is a crucial part of the BDSM experience for many, ensuring a return to reality in a safe and supported way.

By adhering to these guidelines, clients can foster a professional relationship built on mutual respect. Remember, the way you conduct yourself not only defines your experience, but also your reputation within the community.
Choose to act with decorum, and you'll ensure a rewarding and satisfying engagement with Me, or any other Professional Dominatrix. Respect, communication, and integrity are the pillars of a successful BDSM dynamic, both in person and online.